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My MIL had the nerve to claim she was a “Peacemaker”. That is, she always comes to our home with the intention of being the peacemaker. I guess my question would be is the definition of a peacemaker someone who is outright rude to you, your family, the guests in your home, and your friends to the point where they are complaining to you without knowing who she is about her behavior? I’ve truly had it with thinking that she could actually one day see the light. I realize as I’ve been told before, “A zebra NEVER changes their stripes, even if they dress up like a lion.”
I definitely have a love/hate relationship with my MIL. She can be the nicest person, but at times she’ll make very rude comments but say them in a nice way so you don’t know how to take them. What bugs me really though is my husband can’t seem to ever tell her no. He acts like her husband sometimes and not her son.
I’m so tired of my husband constantly sharing what goes on in our marriage with his mom. It’s like she has to sign off on every decision we make before we can proceed. I don’t hate my MIL and can’t blame her for anything because my husband brings her into our marriage. How can I get him to realize that we need to make our own decisions as a married couple, and that he needs to stop sharing what goes on in our marriage with his mom?
I no longer feel comfortable with my son being around my MIL without me. It’s such a shame but the other day, my son came home from being with her and asks me why I don’t treat his dad better, and why I keep him from seeing her more often! I can’t believe she would say or discuss this type of stuff in front of my son and blame me for the amount of time she gets to spend with him. I’ve never wanted to stand in the way of my son seeing his grandmother, but this crosses the line.
I have a good relationship with my MIL. She’s always treated me with love and respect. My mom also has a great relationship with my brother’s wife. However, I do have girlfriends that always tell me horror stories about their MILs. Some of their stories are truly unbelievable. I just can’t understand when mother-in-laws don’t want to take the necessary steps to build a relationship with their daughter-in-laws. And why it seems to be a competition.
My MIL constantly over steps her bounds when it comes to my daughter. If I tell her I would prefer she not let my daughter eat McDonald’s, guess who comes home saying she had McDonald’s. If I tell her not to give my daughter soda, guess who still offers my daughter a sip of soda from her can no less! No matter what I ask her to not do in regards to my daughter, she completely disregards it. And my husband just thinks I should let his mother do what she wants to do. I feel all alone in this battle to get her to respect my choices and decisions as it relates to my daughter. Help!
I’ve been with my husband for the past 16 years although we’ve been married for 7. Yet and still, my MIL uses the excuse that she’s not used to my husband being with someone as the reason for her consistently leaving me out of “family” dinners and in general. And what hurts more than anything is that my husband acts completely oblivious to her behavior and makes additional excuses for his mom each and every time. She plays the victim and he succumbs to it time and time again. Does there ever come a time when husbands “get it”?
My MIL treats me with complete disregard. She acts as if I don’t exist. It’s my husband’s house, my husband’s money, and my husband’s child. She is so very disrespectful to me and our marriage. She doesn’t even thank me when we give her sizeable monetary gifts. After all, it’s my husband’s money. I always am the one that points these issues out to my husband because he just overlooks his mother’s actions. I don’t know how long I can continue to “overlook” her disrespect, and him not defending me and making his mother respect me and our marriage.
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